|CASE STUDY - 9 Year-old Kim: Digestive Disorders
Kim came with her mother complaining of digestive disorders and poor sleep. For about three years Kim was having upset stomach after meals with pain and occasional vomiting. There was not a conclusive diagnosis but Kim was on a healthy and balanced diet. Kim had a thin body and appeared very shy and sensitive. She seemed much attached to her mother and allowed her mother to answer all the questions. She sat beside her mother leaning her head on her mother’s shoulder. Energetically, there seemed to be an excessive attachment between mother and daughter as their energies felt merged. It was difficult to feel Kim’s energy without feeling her mother’s. In this kind of symbiotic mother-daughter energy exchange, it would be very difficult for a child to feel her autonomy and independence and have the full capacity to feel herself. The healing was to help Kim develop her own energetic bubble so that she could feel herself, and for the mother to develop better energetic boundaries with her daughter. I felt this kind of healing would address Kim’s poor digestion and sleep.
There are times when a child’s well being depends on the well being of the parents. Children do not possess the capacity to comfort adults for long periods without identifying with and absorbing the adult pain. Children cannot be the sole nurturing source of an adult or adults without hurting themselves. They are here to be nurtured, to feel safe in their needs, and to be heard by adults. We adults are the source of their comfort and must object to their heartfelt desire to comfort us at the expense of their well being. We adults have each other for comfort and must turn to each other for our personal healing and transformation.